IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - Don't Overlook The Obvious
The 'Other' Infidelity
We hopefully realize that infidelity is an incredible breaking of the marital vows and can destroy not only your marriage, but greatly impact any children whom you have. And, then there are the other victims, the collateral damage.
But far less often, folks seem to realize, intentionally or not, that there is another, equally devastating form of infidelity.
This vow-breaker can take many a form. So let' talk about a few of the most common ones, shall we?
There is the Work-Spouse. You've seen them, even if they were not your own. -- The guy or gal to whom you have a verbally intimate friendship. You often begin by working on a project together. Or next to one another on the assembly line or in adjoining cubicles. You discover that you have similar views on the workplace. Then, as you begin to feel more comfortable with them, you share
news of what happened on the weekend. Then, the night before.
"But that's normal, isn't it? And, healthy? Shouldn't we have friends at work? And, what's wrong with having a friendship involving a co-worker of the opposite sex, if it's totally platonic?"
Great questions. And, your points are valid. Except, that your marriage is (was) more than simply sex. True? You dated before becoming sexual? (Maybe... ) You do/ did spend some quality time with your life partner that did not involve sex. -- Fact is that our spouse is also supposed to be our friend, as well as our lover.
So how do we know when we have crossed that fine line and are having an emotional affair?
"Okay. Now, what about one of the other types of non-sexual affairs that you said would be discussed?"
Well, I didn't say that it would be a non-sexual one. I simply said an affair without touch.
Bottom-line is that we can do as much damage with an emotional affair, as with a physically sexual one. - If you are involved in one of these situations, then you need to work on your marriage. Whether that involves counseling, therapy, sessions with your clergy, or even working on the advice offered in IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE - DON'T OVERLOOK THE OBVIOUS, please do something. Before it becomes too late.